🧥 A Parent’s Guide to Buying Their Child’s First Binder

Jordan S.
Dec 31, 2023
2 min read

Supporting Your Child’s Gender Expression with Safety and Love

If your child has asked for a chest binder—or expressed interest in flattening their chest—it likely means they trust you with something deeply personal. That’s a beautiful step.

As a parent, you may feel unsure about what a binder is, whether it’s safe, or how to help them choose the right one. This guide is here to help you navigate the process with understanding, compassion, and confidence.

🌱 What Is a Binder?

A chest binder is a specially designed undergarment that compresses the chest to create a flatter appearance. It’s commonly used by:

Transmasculine youth
Nonbinary or gender-diverse individuals
Anyone experiencing chest dysphoria

Unlike sports bras or shapewear, binders offer targeted compression and are made to be worn safely with proper use.

💬 Binders help your child feel more at home in their body—not because something is wrong, but because they want to feel more aligned with who they are.

🛍️ Step 1: Choosing the Right Binder

✔️ Sizing

Always use a measuring tape and refer to the brand’s size chart
Never size down—tighter is not better and can be harmful
Take two measurements:
- Around the fullest part of the chest
- Under the chest (ribcage)

✔️ Style Options

Half-length binders: End above the stomach, cooler in hot weather
Full-length binders: Offer more compression and smoother shaping
Zip-up or pull-on: Some youth prefer zip-up styles for easier wear

✔️ Recommended Brands

gc2b, FLAVNT, America Beauty Forms
Look for LGBTQ+-owned brands that prioritize safety and inclusivity

🩹 Step 2: Safety First

Binding is generally safe when done properly, but your child needs to follow a few key rules:

Max 8 hours per day
Never sleep, exercise heavily, or swim in a binder
Take rest days regularly
Pay attention to signs of pain, shortness of breath, or skin irritation

🧠 Tip: Help your child build a binder routine—wearing it for school or outings, but taking it off at home for rest.

👕 Step 3: Supporting Their Confidence

Buying a binder isn’t just a shopping trip—it’s an act of emotional support. Here’s how to show that you’re truly behind them:

Use their chosen name and pronouns
Let them try it on in private (or offer to help, if they want)
Compliment how comfortable or confident they look
Offer to buy clothing that matches their new style

💬 “You look really comfortable in that—do you like how it feels?”

💬 “I’m proud of you for expressing yourself.”

📦 Step 4: Discreet Ordering (If Needed)

Some families may prefer discreet shipping or private delivery:

Most LGBTQ-friendly brands offer plain packaging
You can order the binder under your name if your child isn’t out to others yet
Discuss how your child wants to receive and store the binder

💛 Final Thought

Buying your child their first binder may feel like a small act—but to them, it can be life-changing.

You’re not just giving them a garment.

You’re giving them space to breathe, belong, and become.

No matter where your child is in their journey, your love and support are the foundation of their confidence.